Motherhood: Juggling Responsibilities and Self-Care

From the morning routine to the bedtime routine and all of the little things in between, motherhood is no easy feat. I’m only 22 months into my journey, and my goodness – what a difference from only having to worry about myself. My time no longer feels like my own; things can shift at any moment, and getting into a self-care groove can be tricky. Can you relate?

The Truth Of It All

Mommy burnout is real.
Overstimulation is real.
So, this is a time to lean into self-care instead of neglecting it.

It is easy to try to play catch-up with your old self. There’s joy that comes with motherhood and a grieving process for who we were before the children. So, hear me… feel all of it. The self that had ample time for leisurely makeup routines, that could meditate in peace, or indulge in a skincare ritual without a tiny human calling for your attention, is no more. Now, you’re figuring out a 5-minute makeup routine, putting your hair in a messy bun, and maybe you get one step of your skincare routine done instead of all five. Remember, it’s okay to miss the old version of you. It’s okay to long for those moments of solitude.

As mothers, we often put ourselves at the bottom of the priority list but we can’t pour from an empty cup. It’s not just about looking good, but feeling good and replenished. I don’t know about you, but replenishment has been huge for me in my motherhood journey. I give it all away and then realize I need replenishment. But how?

I’m going to tell you.
You have to put yourself first.
I’ve adopted the feeling (yes, FEELING) that if I’m not okay, my daughter can’t be okay.
So, mommy has to prioritize herself.

Tips for Prioritization Yourself As A Mother

  1. Ask For Help
    This isn’t surprising at all. To give ourselves more space, one of the things we can offer ourselves is the gift of support. In complete vulnerability, I didn’t used to ask for help because I’d then make myself feel like I needed to go and do more for that person than they did for me. That’s unhealthy. Don’t be like the old version of Felicia. It is perfectly fine and healthy to ask for support and respond with a simple, “Thank you.”
  2. Check-In With Your Body In The Micro-Moments
    These are the moments when your kiddo is perfectly content playing, doing some tummy time, or literally anything that doesn’t require you to be hands-on. Take those few moments to close your eyelids, take some deep breaths, feel around for tension in your body, acknowledge it, and then breathe into that area. Release it.
  3. Get Dressed
    This one has been tough for me, but I have noticed how much more human I feel when I get dressed. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy and can be as simple as jeans and a T-shirt. Brush your hair. Brush your teeth (I know I’m not the only one who has had days when that might not happen until midday). Take a shower, even if it’s a 5-minute one, and put on some clothes. Perfect a 5-minute makeup routine that’s your signature go-to momma makeup for some razzle-dazzle. I bet you’d instantly feel better.
  4. Make Time For Spiritual Practice
    Having a consistent spiritual practice is non-negotiable for me. It may not always look the same each day, but I always give the Creator some of my time. This can look like meditation or prayer, even from bed. It can be prayer (I pray with my prayer partner and alone). You get to create the practice that works for you, but let it be a declaration to God/Source/Divine Mind that your spiritual health is a priority.
  5. Move Your Body
    I always feel so much better when I’m active, and I know that’s the case for most of us. Even 15 minutes of stretching is supportive. Try not to overthink this.

What are some things you would add to this list?

 

xo,

Felicia

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